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Saturday, October 29, 2005

Well, they held our joint birthday party...
I must say my step son is good at organizing beautiful things and parties...my main objection is that we aren't rich enough for his creativity...if only he would go into interior decorating or design instead of trying to spend my husband's retirement money...
Oh well..
I am less depressed...actually I'm back to my normal state of happiness..although my arthritis was bad last night...
I've been off and on the internet all day...my latest "addiction" for my own obsesive compulsive impulses...
I think I will start writing essays on my laptop and then posting them here instead of bitching...
I keep thinking of all the patients I treated, and some have nice stories, albeit sad...

Sunday, October 23, 2005

Just to keep things up to date.
My step son is buying and buying a buying and building and building and building.
If it wasn't for the fact that my husband will soon be broke, I'd admire his work: He is a great designer...but why can't he do it for a rich person instead of using up our retirement money?

And he is on a religious kick saying his wife has to be "submissive"...so she went passive aggressive and stopped doing any work...
Finally the gormet rice harvest was a bust...so little income from that, although the earlier rice was okay...

They are all out now buying supplies. and I am home blogging...and doing downloads.
Ah, heaven!

Wednesday, October 19, 2005

Well aside from brownouts and having workers making noise until 9 pm it's quiet.

My stepson is planning a bigshop conference...so what does he do? It's lots of work to clean, arrange beds and bedding etc...but he is making trellises for the bouginvillia vines, buying flat lcd monitors for fancy computers, and tearing down a perfectly good wall to make a fancy wall...

AND HE'S USING MY HUSBAND's MONEY

But it's none of my business, because "you have a premarital agreement" and it's not my money...

I shudder to think of what will happen if my husband dies...he'll find a good, christian excuse why he has to go back to the usa and leave me high and dry...duh...

And maybe, just maybe, he will keep forgetting to submit my visa extention...I've only been asking for six months to submit it...no problem...

Tuesday, October 18, 2005

Well, the men were here to 9pm welding....a trellis for the bouginvillia vine...duh.
We have towels and mattresses on order...
20 people coming here for a conference on "submission", which probably translates to submission to the will of the husband, since one of the families has 7 kids and another 9 kids...

My daughter in law is pulling a passive aggressive attitude: not doing anything unless directly ordered. She has "permission" to restart her business, but only if she calls him and asks him permission for every step of the way in accepting orders and pricing...which makes it neigh well impossible.
I'm probably in deep shit because they left us alone during a brown out thunderstorm, and told us that the "big" generator was overheating, and they had to use my small one...(He took my small one and placed it so it could be used for the entire house (he placed it in the yard so to get there I have to climb over garbage)...since the small generator only runs two hours, it meant I had to refill the tank...

In the meanwhile, everytime he hires girls to clean, they quit...taking stuff with them (the usual filippino perks is to take towels food etc).

Ah the glories of living with a hypomanic religious man who thinks he runs the place...but since I am only the step mom, I have no status, but at least I don't have to obey...nah nah nah...

Thursday, October 13, 2005

well, a big fight last night (which I precipitated)...

My stepson shut down his wife's business (which is in the family's name) because some of the checks were in his name...he is now insisting that she should "do the books" so he can see where the money goes.

Since she is an accountant, that sounds logical. Except that last week she spent all week running booths at TWO trade fairs (He was supposed to help but found he had "too much work" at home)...

And he is insisting that the livelihood, i.e. small craft projects so poor people can work in villages instead of going to cities or overseas, be shut down until SHE gives him a report.

Now, I am not a good accountant, but I can analyze books, and they are in order...but they are in excel and multi level bookkeeping, which take time to analyze. He insists he wants them in "quickbooks", but when I offered to do it, I wasn't given the disc...(I finally "borrowed" it when he was out on an errand).

The problem is that Im not sure how to enter, so I am doing it on quicken...and I can extrapolate the rest.

But he won't accept the data that I've done.

This is all games, of course, He is jealous of his wife, and is destroying her work to prove his masculinity...I thought these things went out in the fifties (heck, even in the fifties, women usually didn't put up with that crap). He even throws in bible verses to prove he needs to be obeyed...duh...one lousy verse, and ignore the rest of the bible?

He hates me because I knew him before he was a man...he thinks I hate him, but I merely don't respect him and I am not requied to obey him or keep my mouth shut.

Probably he'll find a way to throw me out a minute after my husband dies ( I suspect he will run the businesses in the ground, as a "passive aggressive" way to make my husband poor) and then say he is going back to the USA to work...

leaving me high and dry.

Ah, the pleasures of familiy life.

Monday, October 10, 2005

ah, my heart is sad.
We have a young woman helping us clean...and one of the supervisers from the previous handicraft work told me: SHe just had a baby, number six, last week but gave it up for adoption...her husband can;t find work, and now for the last month the livelihood project is shut down, so they have no money...

Ah, Lord, use my hands to help...

Monday, October 03, 2005

Well, let's see...

My stepson is still trying to get his wife to "obey" him while running the family business...and still is making a big thing that we have no "reports" (I audited the books for two random months and they are in good shape...his reply is that he wants three years of reports before she can "reopen" the business...)

So his wife is in bed sulking, and I am babysitting...

He said the family needs a "head" to be obeyed, and I just say bull...and I did not take a vow to obey my husband in my marriage vows. He then throws the Bible at me, thinking that I am a stupid Catholic and will take his word for it...but I point out that the wife in Proverbs buys and sells on her own, and her husband praises her...and he just says that in the rest of the bible it says we have to obey...sorry, one verse in Paul, which leaves out the second part, is NOT a justification of shutting down the family business for three months...we will lose our workers, our workers will suffer no income until they find a new job, and then we will have to rehire and retrain workers--- even if we can get contracts, after cancalling contracts...

This "bible" stuff is nonsense. So my prayer life has suffered...

In the meanwhile, my husband is transferring ALL of his American savings here...well, that will be spent in a year...and we will have only his pension...I have a small pension and small savings, but can't live independently until I hit 65...Guess I'll have to look for a job...

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