I ask your prayers for this woman, so she may write and defend the faith.
However, a lot of the confusion about sexuality and marriage (see previous post) is not just modernist ideas (many of which go way back. Ever read the Fabians? Pius X's thesis against modernist heresy? Margaret Sanger? Mary Wollsteincraft?)
Today we think any woman who doesn't have equal job rights is wrong.
But what I found interesting is reading Edith Stein's essays...there is a section where she discusses how some people are unable to get the job of their heart and that suits their talents. So men were "forced" by economics, for example, to follow their father's job, or work as a labourer instead of a professor.
Even today, some who want to be doctors can't be, due to lack of money or more usually lack of talent. But some, like one of my cousins, chose against higher education because he had a family to support, and night school would mean no time with his children and wife and friends.
A second thing that much of the discussion gets wrong is the idea of a "stay at home mother". As a doctor, I never chose to stay at home, instead I chose to be single, and when I did have children, I took an easy job rather than finish my "second career" residency that would have led to the academic life I craved.
Many of my patients, when I asked them where they worked, would answer "I don't work"...then I asked them about housework and kids, and of course, all of them worked...and a lot of them did things for money like babysit or sew or work part time or grow gardens, or teach classes or sell crafts that they made.
So even today, mothers work.
But a lot of the feminist theology forgets that women WORK...and that until the days of modern conveniences, men could not live without a wife or a servant unless they were very rich...or they would live very poorly.
What about soldiers? Well, most armies had campfollowers to cook and sew and wash clothes.
What about mountain men? they had Indian wives. What about cowboys? They had Mexican servants to cook...and a high mortality thanks to lice and water borne disease...
Mary Ann Glendon, in her book Rights Talk, notes that the philosophers about the noble man that was not corrupted by society was wrong...because these philosophers did not bother to ask what the noble independent free woman and children were doing at the time. Noble savages lived communal lives that little resembled the noble and free savage of Rousseau..
In the third world, there is no social umbrella. You rely on your family.
Men worked as hunters or craftsmen or farmers, women usually were restricted to work that they could do while pregnant or breastfeeding children.
Men worked hard, but women's work was important.
The wife of Proverbs was a working woman because the family essentially was self sustaining, and she was the CEO of the household slaves and servants.
But in poor families, the woman had to do it all herself.
So Mary was not merely a "stay at home mother". She had to get up early and wash and prepare food for Joseph to eat. Then she had to fetch the water, clean the house, feed the animals, air out the bedlinen, get the grain, pound it, shell the beans and cook the porridge (in Palestine this meant lentil stew with barley and onions) and make the flat bread from scratch.
No electric grinder. threshing was done by hand. Wood had to be gathered. Children had to be watched. Preparing food over an open fire required a lot more skill than over a propane stove.
And finally, when the stew was cooking, you could sit. And spin thread for cloth. Or weave.
Without Mary, there was no food, not clothing...
So having the Church called the Bride of Christ not only has sexual connotations (i.e. God loves us like a passionate lover) and not only the idea that God will care for his church (God as a Husband and Father who cares for his child e.g. agape) but also the opposite:
That without the church, God's work cannot be done.
And each of us who are Christians are not only called to be loved, but are the handmaidens or servants, who work for our beloved.And as Benedict points out, we need the eros from God to better be his loving spouse and not just a rigid slave..