Impatience or hubris?
So Sunday, on the way to Trade fair in Manila, I gave them the money (They "forgot" to tell me they'd need 10thousand pesos/200 dollars, but I had gotten extra money from the bank on Friday, so I had it).
Then, on the way out, I was told: Oh by the way, our daughter needs to pay her school tuition. This came to 700 dollars, not a large amount, but there was no way for me to get the amount on a Sunday Afternoon (ATM's have limits)
So I was the "bad guy"
I gave them the lecture about a budget (the idea seems to be if there is an expense, you get it from my husband's savings, but the profit goes into your bank account and can be used for personal expenses).
They knew about this bill for months, yet no word to me, even though I could have easily gotten the cash or put it into the checking account last week (I was in the bank twice, so no problem).
By the "gotcha", they of course can blame everything on me.
But now I feel guilty: If I wasn't sick in bed, I would have tried to figure out how to get the money, but instead it was a demand when they were ready to leave, no time to think or figure it out.
So it's my fault, but this is not the first time.
I am often told" we need 200 dollars" this weekend for salaries, but later I am told we need another 300 for something else.
And instead of coming from the profits of the business, it all is coming from my husband's hard earned savings.
What makes me even madder is that for two years, I didn't get an allowance from my husband, so I had to break into my savings for things like decent sheets, an easy chair, curtains, and snacks.