the Anchoress has a long, sad story about a nun killed in a car accident, and how the community is coping.
Well, yes, it's sad, but as a doc, could I point out that she wasn't a teenager with a life before them(at least she is middle aged), has lived a comfortable (i.e not fighting poverty) and maybe useful life(i.e. not an addict or a cripple), and didn't leave a half dozen kids behind.
Sorry: I've seen too many worse tragedies to get overblown by this one.
But what set off this rant? Ah the happy little photo:

Yes. Sprituality of Jesus means "being the most loving person I can be".
Really?
In today's world, this means being "nice", not "good.
The problem? Often the idea of "niceness" means being passive in the face of incompetence, stupidity, and downright evil.
So when I see a diabetic whose blood sugar is 300 and they both overeat and forget to take their medicine, I am to be "loving", which in this modern world means being a push over.
Oh, don't worry, mrs. Smith. Your sugar is a tad high but everything is fine and you are a wonderful person.
So when a nurse who sweetly ignored my direct orders, or "accidentally" misread an order, (and possibly harmed the patient) can consider herself superior to me, because she is a "loving person", and I am just a bitch for telling her off in public for harming my patient (and will write me up and I'm the one who will end up being reprimanded).
So a sweet alcoholic who steals his grandmother's pension to buy booze or drugs will be greeted with love and told that Jesus loves him, instead of calling the cops.
The smiling politician who gives huge amounts to the church and is in the front for every fiesta, and who is friendly to all, while embezzling millions and looking the other way when someone pulls an "extrajudicial killing" is not told to repent, but approached by the local bishop who asks them to pledge saying that in THIS election he will not shoot anyone (as he did in the last election).
And, of course, the "lovely Christian woman" who manipulates her family through guilt, withholds sex from her husband and plays the martyr when he "cheats" on her, and who prefers to go to church and pray instead of cleaning her house, well of course, she is loving.
(This one is personal. I once answered a phone call for my husband's "ex". The caller, a minister, praised me (thinking it was her) for my zeal for church work and for being a good Christian.
I answered: Oh, you want "X", the Christian lady. I'm "Y", the second wife who almost got her ass shot off for Jesus."
Not the way to make friends and influence people.
The problem is that "huggy feeling" Christianity results in passive aggressive behavior, the idea that being "nice" is better than being competent.
As CS Lewis once noted: Goodness is not the same as niceness.
And holiness doesn't mean pretending evil doesn't exist, and letting evil people get away with (sometimes) murder because one is too "loving" to intervene and be considered "judgemental" and "mean".
and then there is the part on the left about Jesus' "values".
In the good old days, we tried to be virtuous, but now we promote "values". Whatever that means.
Just let me know: Was Jesus acting "loving" when he beat the crooked dealers in the Temple and renounced the religious leaders for taking a cut of the scam?
Just wondering.