Everyone knew: But what do you do?

I lived in Altoona when a lot of the earlier shennanigans were going on.

Despite this, the diocese newspaper was frequently putting in pro gay things, like criticizing the St Pat's day parade not to allow gays to have a group celebrating as if they were catholics, or about the gay friendly atmosphere in State College (where the psychologist who decided who would go to the seminary was giving a talk to the school board there insisting on putting in a pro gay curriculum or something like that. Years later, when the Sandusky scandal at Penn state broke, I wondered if the reason no one was upset at Sandusky having sex with a kid in the shower was the pro gay priests and church there).

Well, anyway, here our resident gay abuser in residence has not had a boyfriend lately (at least here: what he does at the farm, who knows). And when my husband was dying, he moved upstairs, spending money to renovate a store room into his love nest (while Joy had to hide rice to sell to pay for the funeral, and I had to deplete my small savings to buy a lot to bury him in).

Since then, joy has started her own rice business with farmers subcontracted in her parent's area, and the apartment that I pressured my husband to give to our granddaughter with the priviso that I would get the income from it remains a sore spot: He decided to sell it as soon as he heard it was in the will... my husband refused, and it took us months to get control of the house, which by the way was not being rented, to fix it up and rent it: Only after he harassed my granddaughter for months to let him "sell" it, until it got thru his head that I had control of the property (I can't own it per se because I am not a citizen, but I can be given the income).

Right now, I am using the rent from the property to help with the school fees of his daughter, who refused to obey him in the choice of a senior high school... he had insisted she home school, even when we wanted her at the local high school, but when senior high school came, he wanted her to go to the local high school even though her grades were high enough to get a scholarship to a private school in Canada... so there goes my savings again. Sigh. But the income from the apartment helps pay a lot of the expenses too.

So anyway, despite the rice being grown on my husband's fields and the income from the second apartment, I pay for the food and he is broke all the time.

He is now talking about selling the compound where we live, and which is 80 percent unused, even though we could have used it for many different businesses but he vetoed it because he wanted to be in charge.

So anyway, I now am on social security and my pension, all due to my own work: We had a prenupt, so although we were married 20 years I am on my own. The prenup was because the family didn't want me to get his money. He died broke, due to his son, but never mind.

So we discussed if he sold the compound, we could all move to the farm where he would (of course) build extentions on the small house there. (He is big on building and building and tearing down and building again, but not on repairing the leaks).

I had mentioned that Joy had told me I could move to near her family's farm about 30 miles from here, and that might be an alternative, and I also visited my son in the US just in case something happens and I have to leave in a hurry. (war, earthquake, death, etc).

He asked if I would join him at the farm if his wife wouldn't move with him and I said no: Because he has abused employees so many times, and I could not tolerate it.

Here, he does it in the other side of the compound, which is fenced off separate from our small house built by my husband. But in the same house? No.

and no, he has no insight why his wife would object, because after all other wives look the other way when their husbands play around, so what's the big deal?

He is so happy god loves him and who am I to judge means that if his wife objects to his open homosexual abuse of the employees it means she is evil, because after all she married him knowing he was gay, so she has no right to object to his playing around.

I try to be friendly, but there is a line I have to make somewhere. It is now his house/compound legally and vulnerable to lose where I live if he goes manic again...(although under local law, I cannot own the house, also I can't be thrown out of the house under a widow law).

I should note we don't have divorce here in the Philippines, yet...

I wish we did: she could get half the property, which would drive our relatives crazy, but WTF.

well, anyway, people ask: Didn't they know? And the answer: Sometimes it means you can't afford to leave, or like myself, when he moved his boyfriend into the love nest upstairs, I cared for my dying husband and couldn't leave.

So now he is again not doing anything, until the next time... and there will be a next time.

So anyway, whatever.

I was thrown out of Africa twice due to wars, so this shouldn't be a problem, and I do have enough of an income to live quietly elsewhere if things go down the drain.

quote of the week

explains why the Catholic bishops, after opposing divorce and abortion in the 1970's, lost their voice:

link

This clarion call will provide all of our shepherds the opportunity to raise high the standard of truth which has, alas, been hidden for decades. As you told the Wall Street Journal in 2012, our shepherds have had “laryngitis” on Humanae Vitae since “the mid- and late '60s.”
Isn’t fifty years of silence enough, Your Eminence?

Some still believe in Satan

Get Religion has an article on the gangs who worship Satan.

but seculars just torture for fun, and don't need the excuse of Satan.